Only a fool would try to step up to the plate in a major league baseball game with a 9-iron instead of a baseball bat; or try to knock down bowling pins at the local alley with a football… so why do we try to get to the bottom of relationship problems by asking the wrong questions?  As my dad says, asking the right question… and being patient enough to figure out what the right question is… is the key to any successful relationship, whether it be at home, at the office or on the ballfield or bowling alley.