Blending Your StepFamily 6: Healthy Communication, Part 2

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Picking up where we left off last week, healthy communication is a part of a strong foundation for a family. If the foundation decays, the family inevitably falls apart – and the parents must lead the way toward effective, healthy communication.

So, how do we stop aggressive or passive communication within the family and transform to assertive communiction? There are basically three steps to begin:

1) You must be extremely self-aware. You’ve got to be honest in determining which communication style you most often use and consciously move toward using assertive communication.

2) Use “I” statements. The formula goes something along the lines of: “I feel ___________ when you __________.” This keeps the focus on what you need without peppering your spouse with all sorts of blame and accusations.

3) Use active listening. Don’t assume that you know what your spouse is about to say or is feeling. Really hear them out and then repeat to them what you understood from them. This helps clarify the discussion and opens the door to further communication.

Keep in mind, healthy communication is a two-way street, and it takes a lot of work and persistance. So keep at it and I’m sure that you will see vast improvements in your communication and your marriage as a whole.

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