You know what I struggle with most? Well there’s a lot of things… my weight, my breath, being so good looking I cause others to stumble.
Seriously though, what I struggle with are moments that I can look around and think, “Seriously? Seriously! Do I deserve this?”
I don’t know about you but at times life is going so good, I am so blessed and I don’t think I deserve it. I have an amazing wife… that I don’t deserve. Amazing kids… that I don’t deserve. I have a great job, friends a house and I don’t know if I deserve what I have.
I think it’s a common feeling for guys. Even though we put up a confident front inside we feel undeserving or like we do I have what it takes.
This feeling comes from comparing ourselves with other men or manly standards that aren’t real. We think, “I’ve never done X and that guy has done X. I must not be a man.”
But here is the truth the “Stuff & Accomplishment’s” don’t make you men. Even though we can say that, think that and say we believe that – our lives show otherwise. So many of us want to do something to prove we are worthy of being a man.
Let me set this straight… Are you worthy? NO! Are you smart enough? NO! Are you strong enough? NO! You go ahead and fill in your own blank if you are BLANK enough and the answer will always be NO.
You might be thinking, “Man that’s bumming” but the truth is it should be freeing. Don’t allow the fact that you aren’t worthy be discouraging, in fact let it be encouraging.
Because God doesn’t see you by what you’ve done, He sees you as whose you are. God doesn’t see you be what you’ve accomplished, He sees you through the lens of what has been accomplished.
In Ephesians 2:8-9, “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast.”
We can see that God has saved us by His grace not by anything we’ve done. We are not good enough we are broken and that’s why we need God. In our brokenness God can still save us. Knowing this allows us to say, “I am not good enough but Gods grace is strong enough, Gods love is powerful enough, and the work of the cross is –enough.”
You do not deserve it but you are worth it.
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