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Jimmy lived most of life questioning why his dad left him at such a young age. But he was convicted and compelled by the gospel to love and pursue his estranged father in an effort to extend forgiveness and reconciliation.

A Father’s Love

My parents went to church, and my grandpa was the pastor of our church back home. During one of the mid-week services, my grandpa was up preaching and he asked the congregation, “If you died tonight, where would you lift your eyes up?”

And I started asking myself that same question. God started showing me how much of a sinner I actually was. He showed me, in a small way, my own depravity and my need for Him. I remember crying out to Him, “God, I want you to save me!”

Right then and there, He called me by name and He saved my soul.

After that, a really sweet thing took place (I call it sweet now, but it didn’t seem sweet at the time)…

A couple days later was a Sunday. My mom, my sister and my grandmother decided to go to the mall. Then, at the last second, I decided not to go with them. They came back later, and I remember looking out and seeing my mom crying in the back seat of the car. Then, I saw my grandma crying, and my sister crying.

My grandma walked up to me and told me that they had all caught my dad cheating on my mom with another woman at the mall.

I remember being so angry at that moment that I wanted to punch a hole through the light post that was standing next to me.

But then, in that same moment, I was reminded by the Holy Spirit that I’m different. I’m changed. I’m saved. And I actually need to forgive my dad.

But that just wrecked me! At the same time, I was so angry at my dad! I didn’t want to forgive him. He hurt my mom!

Still, at that moment, I realized that I needed to forgive him.

A little while later, he came back to the house. My mom and dad were arguing – screaming pretty loud. The only thing I could think to do was to pray.

I really wanted my dad to leave. I just didn’t want them to argue any more about this situation.

I mean… I was just in the sixth grade!

So, I ran to my bed and prayed. I asked God to just make him leave. Then I heard my doorknob turn and my bedroom door crack open. I heard my dad’s footsteps come through my door. The only thing I could think to do was to scream, “Daddy!”

He looked at me and the only thing I could say was, “Daddy, I love you.”

I said those words, and my own flesh and blood—my dad— looked me right square in the eyes, and just turned and walked out the house. He didn’t say a word.

That just broke my heart. I began to weep.

But, then God reminded me that I didn’t need my dad’s love.

I am loved by my Heavenly Father!

And that was all I needed.

All the way through high school, I continued to pray for my dad. When I got to college, I just stopped caring. In fact, I stopped praying about it.

I met a young man, who was in choir with me, and he asked me about my testimony. After I finished telling him my story, he asked me, “When was the last time you prayed for your dad? Actually, when was the last time you prayed for y’all’s relationship?”

I just sat back and said, “It’s been a long time.”

So, I went back to my dorm and said, “OK, Lord… I want to start praying for my and my dad’s relationship. I know it’s not good right now, and I want it to change. I want to know my dad more.”

After that, I began to call my dad. I’d call him almost every day. Many times, he didn’t answer the phone. And many times, he didn’t call me back. And there were many times when he would talk with me. And at the end of the call, I would say, “Alright Daddy… I love you.” And he wouldn’t say a thing. He’d just hang up the phone.

This happened for many years. But, I continued to pray for him and pursue him. I just kept running after him.

I actually wrote a couple songs about how I felt during that time, and how my mom felt, too. And, at one point, I actually sang one of the songs to him. I could hear my dad crying on the other end. I could feel the hurt within him. He began to repent to me. He said, “Son, I’m sorry. I’m sorry for all the things that I’ve done.”A Father’s Love

When we were saying goodbye, I said, “Daddy, I love you.”

And he actually said, “I love you”, back to me.

It touched my heart so much to hear those words.

And after that night, he actually started calling me! He was calling me even more often than I was calling him. He even would tell me he loved me without me saying it at all.

I look at all this, and I can clearly see how God has reconciled our relationship, and I see the Gospel in that.

I can see, through this story, how Christ has continually pursued me.

Oddly enough, I’m glad that all this stuff happened. Because, if this hadn’t happened, I wouldn’t be the man who I am today. I would not know Jesus as well as I know Him if my dad had not done the things that he did. The times when my dad wasn’t there, I learned that my Heavenly Father was always there. He would always provide when my dad wouldn’t provide for me. When I needed somebody to tell me that he loved me, my Heavenly Father would show me how much He loved me in so many different ways!

At one point, I called my dad and said, “Daddy, I don’t want you to say a word. I’ve just got some things that I need to tell you. God has used you in a great way – to push me to want to know Him more. And, I’m closer to God because of you.”

The next day, my dad called me, and said, “Okay… it’s my turn. Let me tell you something, and I don’t want you to say a word…”

And he went on to say things that I had never heard him say before. He told me how proud he was of me. He told me how I pushed him closer to God.

I see now how God has used me to display, in a way, a part of the Gospel in my dad’s life.

Reconciliation.

I’m thankful that God has reconciled our relationship. And to this day, me and my dad are really close. I look forward to the day when he calls me to tell me that he is saved, and I’m not going to stop praying for that!

I want God to call him by name.

The Austin Stone Story Team is a community of artists who tell stories of gospel transformation. We are photographers, writers, editors, filmmakers, and musicians on a common mission to use our gifts for His glory.

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Daring to Hope in the Face of Adversity

Daring to Hope in the Face of AdversityI’m so excited to have this week’s special guest, Katie Davis Majors. Most of you are familiar with Katie by her maiden name, Katie Davis — the New York Times bestselling author of Kisses from Katie. Her new book, Daring to Hope, is amazing. Katie truly is a gifted writer. For those of you who are not familiar with Katie, she actually moved to Uganda over a decade ago, with no idea that it would be the place that God would call her to build her home and her family. Today, she is the wife of Benji and mom to her fourteen favorite people. Katie and her family invest their lives pouring into the people of Uganda through education, medical care and spiritual discipleship. She is also the founded of Amazima Ministries—an organization that cares for the vulnerable children and families of Uganda. They have also recently just opened a new school (which she will talk about in today’s episode).

Katie’s first book really inspired us to take a look at our lives and how we are living out the call that God is putting on our hearts. For her that calling was in Uganda. At a very young age she was fostering and adopting children—we’ll get to all of that in this amazing interview. What is interesting that is in the time span from book one to book two, God brought about quite a few tragedies in her life. Her new book really talks through, as it mentions in the title, daring to hope. She talks about how she really questioned God in these really hard times in her life. What I love is she doesn’t simply leave us with “there were hard times and God was there,” she talks about the beautiful intimacy and the character of God that she got to see through these hard times.

I cannot wait for you to hear this episode!

On a “Simply” & “Joyful” side note…

Katie says her favorite way to keep things simple is to get rid of unnecessary stuff.

She also shares about how she believes it’s important to make life more about relationships. Don’t worry about if your house is perfect before you have guests over or don’t worry about cooking elaborate meals. All those things can be beautiful and God-ordained, but it can also be a hindrance. God chose relationship every time.

”Get rid of unnecessary stuff.’ Get more quick tips on keeping things simple from Katie Davis Majors! @KristiClover (CLICK TO TWEET)

Highlights from This Show…

  • Katie tells the story of how she ended up staying in Uganda after traveling there to teach Kindergarten for a semester. She shares about the family dynamic in Uganda. So many families have to send their children to work at a very young age.

80% of children living in institutions (such as orphanages) in Uganda have at least one living parent. — Katie Davis Majors

Orphans are being created because of poverty. — Katie Davis Majors

  • Katie shares how Amazima Ministries was born, and about the new school, a high school, that was opened this year.
  • Katie has adopted fourteen daughters from Uganda. She shares a little about that process.
  • Katie shares about writing Kisses for Katie and becoming a NYT Bestselling author (and why she swore she’d never write again)!
  • Katie shares a little about her friend, Bob Goff who endorses her new book.
  • Why did Katie decide to write a follow up to Kisses from Katie? She shares a little of the story and her journey to book two.

It was a hidden season that I pulled back from all the hype from Kisses from Katie. — Katie Davis Majors

These things aren’t just for you. It’s time to share with the world. — Katie Davis Majors

I sat down to write, and God just gave me the words. — Katie Davis MajorsDaring to Hope in the Face of Adversity

  • At the beginning of Daring to Hope, Katie tells about the tragedy that really shook her faith and ultimately inspired the title of her new book. I ask Katie to share a little about this tragedy and what God’s answer was to her pleas.

He didn’t answer my prayer how I wanted Him to answer it, but He did answer it. —Katie Davis Majors (CLICK TO TWEET)

He is the same God now that He was then. —Katie Davis Majors

  • Katie shares about the times when she saw God say “No”, and the hurt that came with that.

He has purpose in all things. — Katie Davis Majors

Our stories aren’t meant to begin and end here on earth. — Kristi Clover

  • Throughout Katie’s book, she pulls stories from the Bible and makes them applicable to today. She shares a little about God speaking to her through these stories and weaving them through her Daring to Hope.

. . . His steadfast love is better than life. (Psalm 63:3)Daring to Hope in the Face of Adversity

He’s not surprised by us. —Katie Davis Majors (CLICK TO TWEET)

  • Katie shares a little about what her daily life is like in Uganda.

My ministry right now is a stay-at-home mom. — Katie Davis Majors

  • Katie shares more about the difficulties of raising fourteen children.

They are the people that I am called to pour into and disciple. — Katie Davis Majors

  • At the end of the interview, I asked Katie if there was anything that we, on this side of the globe, could lift up in prayer for her.

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Connect with Katie Davis Majors…

Katie Davis Majors moved to Uganda over a decade ago with no idea that this would be the place that God chose to build her home and her family. Today, she is a wife to Benji and mama to her fourteen favorite people. Katie and her family invest their lives in empowering the people of Uganda with education, medical care, and spiritual discipleship. She is also the founder of Amazima Ministries, an organization that cares for vulnerable children and families in Uganda and the author of the New York Times bestseller Kisses from Katie.

You can check out Katie’s books HERE on Amazon! Be sure to visit her site as well at www.amazima.org.

Thank you, Rend Collective for allowing me to use your incredible song “The Joy of the Lord is My Strength”!

(This podcast is by Kristi Clover. Discovered by Christian Podcast Central and our community — copyright is owned by the publisher, not Christian Podcast Central, and audio is streamed directly from their servers.)

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Unorthodox Real Deal – An Interview with Scott Ferrell

Growing up, Scott Ferrell was an authentic Golden Child, at least in the eyes of his Sunday School teachers. Scott accepted Jesus at five-years-old, grew up in a solid Christian home, and would eagerly share Jesus with other little kids.

But, when he moved to California at 16, everything changed.

Here are just a few of the highlights of Scott’s story:

  • From age 16 to 23, Scott jumped into drugs, alcohol & women
  • In 1987, he checked himself into rehab and it made sense
  • After 10 years of sobriety, he would say he was a “Clean & Sober good guy… but with a bad attitude”.
  • Scott walked back into church and felt like he never left
  • Today, Scott is trying to be useful everyday for Jesus
  • He created the Iron Sharpens Iron Garage
  • Who comes to the Garage? Pastors, Bikers, everyday guys – guys who are real!
  • Scot shares his thoughts on dealing with men: Getting real, fakes & frauds
  • He sees himself “living in a different mission field” than many expect
  • Scott’s favorite Bible verse:
    • Whatever you do,whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. (Colossians 3:17)
    • In other words, whatever you do, do it for God – your actions, your attitude, your words… live it!
  • Everything we do needs to be for God
  • Advice for guys wanting to lead men:
    • Pray first
    • Get to know the rules & regulations for their culture
    • Be super respectful – it’s their world you are just visiting
    • Build authentic friendships

This is just part of Scott’s story. You’ve got to hear what God has done throughout his life to mold him into the man he is today – an authentic, genuine, real deal who serves Jesus!

You can learn more about Scott and Iron Sharpens Iron Garage via Facebook (though, for obvious reasons, it’s a closed page, so simply make a request to join), or simply call Scot on his cell: (858) 688-3584.

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Navigating Blended Family Dynamics with Rich Nicolosi

This week in the “Shed” is our tool of the week – Rich Nicolosi!

Navigating Blended Family Dynamics with Rich NicolosiRich joins us in the shed to talk about blended families. What is a blended family? Listen to the episode to find out more but in summary a blended family is any family where someone within the immediate family structure is not a blood relative. In other words, step kids, step parents, adopted children, etc. In this episode we discuss the “padora’s box” of challenges and adventures involved in being a parent or child in a blended family and the complexities of how to handle each individual situation.

In general statistics divorce rates amongst 1st marriage is around 48%, 2nd marriage = 67%, 3rd marriage = 73%, and sadly military or couples who co-habitate before marriage = 80%. For the first time in U.S. history a majority of babies born in the U.S. will be born into homes without a mom and a dad of blood relation in the home. So what do we do? One of the responses is to help build up blended families.
Rich is a husband, dad, head varsity football coach and former heavy metal band superstar…who happens to also be an experienced Information Technology Manager, cloud technology expert, and builder of successful high performing teams. On top of that Rich is the director of Blended Family Fellowship where he is able to coach others to tackle these challenges not just from an educational standpoint, but as a practitioner. Now in his 2nd marriage Rich has learned through the storms of life and 8 years of being equipped to counsel blended families. Common challenges & questions that arise within blended families are:

  • How do we curb growing marital conflict around discipline of blended children/step children, etc?
  • What roles/functions should step parents have in the day to day life management of non-blood children?
  • How do we juggle custody and holidays with other parents?
  • How do families overcome the sense of shame that is often associated with divorce, re-marriage, etc? How do we equip our students to not bear that sense of inferiority or “damaged goods”.
  • How do parents build bonds with step-children?
  • What are good skills for step parents to have when engaging with the blood relative or birth parent? What will lose trust with step children? Build trust?

Our hope is that this episode equips you to grow healthier families no matter what context you represent. We also hope these tools help you serve other families and individuals around you. This episode is loaded with tools we hope equip you to build stronger relationships. Hope you enjoy!

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Enneagram In Relationships with Charlie Ruce

This week in the “Shed” is our tool of the week – Charlie Ruce.Importance of Providing Good Counsel with Charlie Ruce

Charlie Ruce is the Clinical Director of the Soul Care House (www.soulcarehouse.com) as part of his work as a marriage and family therapist. Charlie is an expert at utilizing the Enneagram personality profiling system. If you aren’t familiar with the Enneagram we will catch you up in this episode as well as explain how it works and how specifically it can be an amazing tool for building empathy and growing relationships. Charlie is a specialist in his field at helping couples struggling to connect deeply and we discuss how the Enneagram can be a part of every couple’s next steps for improving emotional intimacy and connection. The Enneagram can also be utilized in corporate teams, friendships, organizational structuring, etc. so we dive into a variety of ways Charlie sees the Enneagram usage as a healthy component of empathy building.

Enneagram In Relationships with Charlie RuceIf you aren’t familiar with your enneagram number, we recommended at the early part of the show that you go take a test and find out which number you are. You can find more information at the Enneagram Institute’s website and even a simple google search for “free Enneagram test” will give you options on finding out which number you are. Sometimes it takes a few tries and reading the profiles before you lock in which number you are. We give some practical tips in this episode to help you focus in as well as help your spouse or friends.   If you’re just starting out understanding the Enneagram system you’ll love the podcast episode The Liturgist Podcast did about it. Do a search in your iTunes podcast app for that show and you won’t be disappointed. In this show however, we focused a little more in the practical applications of understanding other peoples Enneagram type.

The Enneagram is only one of many options to build connection between couples. Charlie revealed the 5 major areas in which all couples need to build on to have healthy relationships. The acronym for this is C.R.A.C.K.! We had some fun with that one!

C – Communication (tones, style, timing, listening, etc.)

R – Repair (how is conflict resolved, or is it?)

A – Acceptance (big part of the Enneagram discussion, this involves empathy, etc.)

C – Connection (rhythms of time spent together, intimacy and commitment tangibly).

K – Knowing (emotional bonding and known-ness, seeking to truly know the other).

This episode is loaded with tools we hope equip you to build stronger relationships. Hope you enjoy!

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This week in the “Shed” is our tool of the week – Jean Luc Tshishimbi.

Jean Luc has an amazing life story but even better than his story is the way he tells it! J.L. as we call him, is a master story teller. Although by trade he is a communications and wireless sales executive (TPX Communications), his true passion is making changes in other people’s lives through his story telling and hospitality as he invites you into his life and his lessons learned!

In this episode Jean Luc shares a couple stories from his youth in the war torn Democratic Republic of Congo. The purpose of his stories are two-fold; first because stories are a tool in and of themselves, so learning how to tell stories and bring them alive is a critical part of us bringing change and impact to the people around us. Second, Hospitality is the tool that Jean Luc presents to us in this episode through his story and the story allows us to enter in to the powerful imagery and lasting impact that hospitality can have on people in our lives whether they “need” it or not.

Specifically you will hear us zero in on a couple stories when J.L. was just a small boy. In the first story J.L. was playing with his friend from down the street. When play time was over his friend invited him to stay for dinner. The awkward part of the invitation for dinner was that this little boy and his family had close to nothing and yet J.L. was the child of a prominent government leader with plenty of food, clothes, etc. J.L. was faced with a decision, insult the invitation of the family or stay and eat what little food they had. You’ll have to tune in to hear how this story finishes but journey with us as we take a peak inside the world of the DRC through Jean Luc’s eyes and the life change that was and is happening in all corners of the world.

Jean Luc closes this episode with a challenge for us to pick up this tool of hospitality and utilize it in a way that may be initially costly to us but worth the long term investment in others’ lives.

This episode is loaded with tools we hope equip you to build stronger relationships. Hope you enjoy!

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Unorthodox Strength In Numbers

We believe a lie!

This lie tells us that we are man enough to stand-alone. We got this lie at an early age from books, comics, movies, where the one hero stood against the world and defeated all evil forces. As a child of the 80’s all my action heroes had one gun that never ran out of ammo, they never missed a shot and they knew all forms of martial arts.

I wanted to be that man.

The truth is as real men we know that that hero doesn’t exist. Sure there are amazing fighters and guys who can shoot almost ant target, but those men are all apart of a team. No one stands alone.

You know what’s funny? The fact that I know that… You know that… But we still try to do life alone.

Somewhere we started to believe we could be “Lone Wolves”. But a lone wolf isn’t anything to aspire to. A lone wolf is a wolf that’s been rejected by their tribe, they are probably sick or injured and they are going to die alone.

One of my favorite verses about relationships has got to be…Unorthodox Strength In Numbers

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:
If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.

Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)

There is strength in numbers, there is the opportunity to accomplish so much more in life when we get honest and ask for help.

Don’t believe the lie – no man stands alone.

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Growing Leaders in a New World with Andrew McPeak

This week in the “Shed” is our tool of the week – Andrew McPeak.

Growing Leaders in a New World with Andrew McPeakAndrew is co-author of “Marching OFF The Map”, millennial speaker, and content developer with Growing Leaders. His experiences as both presenter and curriculum designer have led him to become well versed in communicating to and about the next generations.

The Growing Leaders Philosphy on leadership development for students

  • It’s an inside job before it’s an outside job.
  • It’s a process more than an event.
  • It’s a right-brain function before a left-brain function.
  • It’s more about a disposition than a position.
  • It’s more caught than taught.
  • It’s learned through both uploading & downloading.
  • It’s about an experience not just an explanation.
  • It’s more about service before it’s about success.
  • It’s about relationships before it’s about results.

EVENT AND PROCESS

Growing Leaders’ goal is to equip and mobilize one percent of the world’s population under the age of 25 (30 million students) to think and act like authentic, life-giving leaders. We help students discover their purpose, equip them for leadership, and prepare them to use their gifts to serve the world around them.

In this episode Andrew and Tim discuss:

  • What is the vision and purpose of Growing Leaders as an organization?
  • How do you define “millienial”? What makes a millienial unique?
  • What makes working with millennials unique or uniquely challenging?
  • What is a “Habitude?” – how did Habitudes come into being? Why are they so effective?
  • How does all of this play into the new book Marching off the Map?  What is this Brand New World?

Andrew closed this conversation by answering the below questions and giving us some amazing tools…

  1.  What’s a tool we can implement right now/today as parents, teachers. Mentors, or coaches to help us grow healthier and more intimate relationships with the next generation?  (Also, what’s something we should STOP doing, a “tool” we should put down that is driving the younger generations away from us?)
  2.  If I’m a millennial or Gen X/Y listener, what’s a tool I can implement into my life right now that will help me build healthier relationships and prepare myself for life?

This episode is loaded with tools we hope equip you to build stronger relationships. Hope you enjoy!

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Does your NO mean NO? (Boundaries)

Having no boundaries in your personal life will strain personal relationships and the accumulation of frustration and miscommunication as a result of no boundaries will  ultimately create resentment that will lead you into very toxic relationships.

No boundaries can also keep you in that victim mentality.

Here’s the truth – if you don’t create clear boundaries for yourself in all of your relationships, you can’t expect the people in your life to know what you want or don’t want.  Healthy boundaries allow for an equal partnership where both the power and responsibilities are shared.  Especially in marriages, but this mindset will affect everything you do, from friends, to work, to church, to children.

Does your NO mean NO? (Boundaries)Boundaries help us define who we are and provides us with a definite sense of self. People who learn how to set personal boundaries thrive because they have created a level of personal control within their life, whereas people who do not set personal boundaries tend to be stressed and overwhelmed with too much to do and not enough time to do the things they want.

Most people have a hard time saying the word NO.

Inevitably, until we set personal boundaries and learn to say no, the quality of our lives will suffer in so many ways.

When we learn to say “No” more often, or just learn to say “Yes” on our terms, we free ourselves from the burden of pleasing others therefore allowing ourselves more time and freedom to do what we feel matters most.

Examples:  

  • Your adult children ask you for money and you go ahead and give it them against your better judgment even though they don’t take responsibility for their own budgeting.
  • Your coworkers delegate tasks to you that they should be doing, but you do the extra work because you want to please them and be liked.
  • Your husband tells you that it’s your fault he lost his temper and was abusive and you take on the guilt for his choices and actions.
  • Someone from your church asks you to volunteer for a new project, and out of guilt you say “yes” when you really should say “no” because your schedule is already overloaded and you are exhausted.

Sound familiar?

All of these scenarios reflect a lack of boundaries – limits that can help you avoid unnecessary stress and enjoy the peace God wants you to experience.

You may tend to respond to other people’s needs at the expense of your own and then suffer from the chaos that comes from a life without proper boundaries.   I see it often in coaching.

Do you want some ideas on how to  start setting boundaries in your life and start enjoying peace?

  1. Shift your focus from your circumstances to how you respond to those circumstances.

God will empower you to change your life for the better if you change the way you respond to your circumstances. While you often can’t control your circumstances, you can always control how you respond to those circumstances as you surrender them to God and follow the Holy Spirit’s guidance to set the appropriate boundaries. Doing so will honor both God and you, because it will please God to see you living with the respect He intends for you.

  1. Keep in mind that taking control isn’t the same as being controlling.

Setting boundaries isn’t about trying to control other people; instead, it’s about being clear about what you will and will not accept in your life in order to claim your God-given spiritual authority and guard your heart from harm. You never need to feel guilty about setting boundaries with the people in your life.  Jesus did it all the time.  He had very strong boundaries.  No one deterred Him from His mission.  People will actually have more respect for you when you are strong and firm in your boundaries.

  1. Distinguish between helping and enabling others.

Consider whether or not you’re actually helping the people you’re trying to help. Helping is doing things for people that they are not capable of doing for themselves.

But Enabling leads people to depend on you in unhealthy ways – AND is doing things for people that they could and should be doing themselves.

Recognize that when you’re enabling people rather than helping them, you’re creating an atmosphere in which others can comfortably continue their unacceptable behavior. Even though you intend to help, if you’re enabling you’re actually hurting other people, and yourself, in the process.  You enable them to not take responsibility for their own lives.  Thus draining yourself.

Recognize that setting boundaries is vital in order to fulfill God’s purposes for your life. Instead of letting other people distract you from living the life God intends for you, claim the spiritual authority God has given you by setting the boundaries He leads you to set in your life.

Pray for the confidence you need to overcome whatever fears have been holding you back from setting proper boundaries in your life.

The more you learn how to apply biblical wisdom to your life, the better you’ll be able to set boundaries that will help you accomplish God’s will.

  1. Stop your own negative behavior.

Ask God to help you identify specific negative attitudes and behaviors in your life that are contributing to a lack of boundaries and the resulting stress. Then decide to stop your destructive patterns and pray for power from the Holy Spirit each day to replace your unhealthy attitudes and behaviors with healthy ones.

Don’t waste time or energy anymore on trying to get the other people in your life to change; that will never work. Instead, focus on simply changing yourself, with God’s help.  You will never get someone else to change their behavior.   You have to change.

YOU are NOT the savior of anyone.  Jesus is!!

Seek the support and encouragement of some caring Christians whom you can trust to help you on your journey to set proper boundaries in your life.  Or get yourself a Life Coach to walk the journey with you a while to show you how.  (Contact me if interested!)

  1. Nip excuses in the bud.

Don’t tolerate any more excuses from either yourself (about why you’re not setting boundaries in your life) or other people (about why they want to step over boundaries that you’ve set for them).

Ask God to help you stand firm so you can make real and lasting changes in your life. Say “no” clearly and without guilt whenever you sense that you should say “no.” Doing so will give you the freedom to say “yes” to activities that the Holy Spirit convicts you to pursue.

You will feel so empowered!!

  1. Trust the voice of the Spirit. Pay attention to how the Holy Spirit speaks to you about boundaries. Listen for the Spirit’s guidance about boundaries every day in prayer, and be sensitive to the Spirit’s promptings in every situation you encounter. In some situations, the Spirit will restrain you from taking action, and in others, the Spirit will urge you to take action move forward.

Yield everything to God. Live to please God alone, and don’t worry about pleasing other people. Let go of everything that holds you back from fulfilling God’s purposes for you, including: unrealistic expectations, negative emotions, and Satan’s lies. Trust God to give you peace and guidance to change your life forever!!

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Utilizing Empowerment to Overcome Adversity with Jasmine Henderson

Once again, this week’s tool of the week is Jasmine Henderson. Her story was just too awesome to pack into a single episode, so we get to continue our discussion here in part two!

A former professional soccer player, author, and current world record holder & motivational speaker, Jasmine Henderson is running with purpose! Born and raised in an inter-racial home in Los Angeles, Jasmine has a unique perspective and eclectic background. Like the generations before her, she has a heart for God and a heart for people. Her career in soccer has allowed her to experience and gain a high level of leadership and motivational skills that transcend into all areas of life. Jasmine’s most life-changing adventure was her journey from virgin into single motherhood at 25. It not only led her to write her first book, A Broken Vow, but also was a fan to the flame of her burning desire to empower herself and empower women. Through it all, Jasmine has experienced the power and importance of impeccable role-models in life, encouragers and authentic community. She dedicates her life to being the best beautiful woman she can be and to shine her light for all to see!

Jasmine was recently part of world record breaking event hosted by Equal Playing Field, where 28 women from over 20 countries played a full soccer game in a crater on Mt. Kilimanjaro…at the highest altitude any soccer game has ever been played! Crazy!

In this episode we discuss Jasmine’s role as a motivational speaker and specifically how her stories of having “the bottom drop out” on her throughout life has allowed her to experience tangible tools that strengthen her to overcome any adversity that life has thrown at her.

Jasmine has a unique voice and empathy toward women and single mothers who struggle (like all of us) at times to find the strength to continue to press forward in life. Her energy is contagious and her stories of failure, loss, and heartbreak in this episode will infuse you with hope, courage and renewed confidence.

We also discuss specific tools for making it through life’s hardest seasons and how she specifically calls young women into a life of passion and purpose.

This episode is loaded with tools we hope equip you to build stronger relationships. Hope you enjoy!

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