What up, guys! On our Friday shows, we normally just have me flying solo, but today, we’re going to do something a little bit different. I have one of the most manly men that I have ever come across in my life, and he is going to talk to us a little about being a man. So, please introduce yourself… what’s your name?
MIKE: Is it true that you are my nine-year-old son?
MIKE: Awesome. So, Darrien, let me ask you a few amazing questions. First, what’s the greatest Pokemon in the world?
MIKE: What does Dialga do?
DARRIEN: He’s a legendary Pokemon.
MIKE: But, of course. Okay, what’s better: Pokemon or Mindcraft?
DARRIEN: I won’t answer that question.
MIKE: (Laughter) Okay, so Darrien, you’re going to grow up to become a man. Why do you want to be a man?
DARRIEN: Because I want to grow up to be exactly like you.
MIKE: Hopefully you do that better than I do! So, what makes a man A MAN? What do men do?
DARRIEN: They’re helpful, kind, generous. That’s pretty much all I know because I’m not a man yet.
MIKE: Okay. Let me ask you this, buddy: Who are some of the men in your life that you look up to? Who are men that you think are really cool and you want to be like them?
DARRIEN: My principal, Mr. Seacrest, you, my two older brothers… that’s pretty much all… basically my family.
MIKE: I know of a few others, so I’m just going to suggest a few. What about Grandpa? Ben? Ryan? And then, there’s Micah, Andy… the list goes on and on. So, of those guys we named, what did they do that you look at and say, “Hey! I want to do some of that!”
DARRIEN: They are polite, funny, careful, and care much about their families.
MIKE: Cool. So, since we love Jesus and we talk about Jesus a lot in our house, tell me, why do you follow Jesus?
DARRIEN: I follow Jesus because… well, first, I didn’t really know about Him until I joined this family. And then, you took me to church and I sorta liked it. And, Jesus sounds like a cool man and so I sorta wanted to grow up to be like Him. I want to be polite and do the good stuff that He does.
MIKE: So, what are some of those good things that Jesus does?
DARRIEN: Well, He is very generous. He saved a lot of lives. He is very, very outgoing. And He’s not afraid of anything.
MIKE: So, do you think you could be a man and not follow Jesus?
MIKE: What would that look like?
DARRIEN: Well, I don’t have to follow Jesus to be good. I could be good without following Jesus by being polite, helpful, generous, outgoing, and brave.
MIKE: Okay. Now, when you add Jesus into that mix, does it make it better?
MIKE: So, what about following Jesus makes life different?
DARRIEN: Now that I believe in Him, I can trust Him and do more things than I could before.
MIKE: If there was somebody that asked you, “Darrien, how do I become a man? How can I become a man who follows Jesus and does good things?” What advice would you give them?
DARRIEN: Well, I would tell them, “You should be polite, be helpful, be outgoing, brave, strong… and basically anything that is good.”
MIKE: Who did you learn that from? Who taught you “how to be a man”? Who are your “man teachers”?
MIKE: Ahh… shucks.
DARRIEN: Tylie, Micah, Ryan, George, Andy, Grandpa… a lot of people who are men… and some women.
MIKE: Women taught you how to be a man?
DARRIEN: Well, they taught me how to be polite.
MIKE: What are some dumb things that men think are important but we either don’t really need to do or shouldn’t do?
MIKE: Women are dumb??!
MIKE: Then, what do you mean by that?
DARRIEN: We shouldn’t think about women in inappropriate ways. Because, that basically means that we only think about how they look and how rich they are. We need to look at them of how strong, beautiful, and brave they are… things that are encouraging, not just like… “Hey, you’re pretty!” and that’s it.
MIKE: I totally agree. Because they are sisters, they are moms… they are our family in Jesus. And that’s why men protect women, right?
MIKE: And are we real men if we treat women bad?
MIKE: So, we are protectors and providers, and we support and help out. So, what would you tell a guy if he doesn’t treat a girl right?
DARRIEN: You’re a bad guy!
MIKE: Very powerful. Are there any questions you’d like to ask me?
DARRIEN: What’s it like being a man?
MIKE: What’s it like being a man? Umm… It’s a lot of responsibility because other people depend on me and because I want to be a good example for you, your brothers and your little sister. I want to show you what it’s like to be a man, but I also want to show your sister what it’s like to be loved by a good guy and a husband. So, I need to love mom right, so she sees what’s going on. I need to make good choices that are not just about me, but about you guys. It’s also cool because I’m hairy and I can make funny shounds with my butt and my mouth and..
DARRIEN: Okay… you just crossed a line a little!
MIKE: It’s a lot of work and it’s a lot of responsibility, but it’s awesome. I wouldn’t change it for anything else. I love being a man!
DARRIEN: How do you become a man? Especially a man like you?
MIKE: A man like me? First, you make a whole lotta mistakes, then you pray to Jesus and ask for help!
DARRIEN: Okay… maybe I should ask someone else!
MIKE: Yeah, probably! How do you become a man? You make “the tough decision”. Meaning, if something is easy – like lying, cheating or stealing – but something might be tough – like telling the truth or being generous and caring and taking care of others – you choose to do the right thing, even though it may be tough. When you see something that needs to be done, you take care of it. Because, that’s just what you do. For me, it also means that I follow Jesus because Jesus gave me the ultimate example of what being a man looks like. So, it’s tough. Being a little boy is easy, but being a man takes some work sometimes. You know what I mean?
DARRIEN: Uh huh.
MIKE: Alright… last question. Who is a better singer/rapper/producer/MC: Bizzle or me?
DARRIEN: You suck. Bizzle!
MIKE: (Laughter) Don’t ask a question if you can’t handle the answer! Well, son, I love you. I’m proud of you. I’m very excited to be a part of your “Manhood Journey”. And I pray everyday that I am a good man to lead you and our family. Thanks for helping me, and all the other guys out there, learn to be a man!
DARRIEN: Can we do this again?
MIKE: Maybe some other time! Any last words of advice? Any final words for all your fans out there?
DARRIEN: You guys should know that I am pretty majestic with my words and actions.
MIKE: True story!
Shawn Manaher is my guest this week, as we discuss his contribution to my 2-book set “Entrepreneur Mind Hacks”. Shawn has some golden nuggets regarding the power of good connections to share with us, and advice on how to avoid totally messing them up!
Let’s start with the basics: What are networking & business connections?
According to Shawn, networking connections are simply making and building relationships related to whatever you want to build. So, in this context were talking about networking for the purpose of building business. Think of it more as a relationship more than just an activity – getting to know one another. Often times, those that are in the “online space” make the mistake of thinking that networking is just like online. However, all networking should actually be approached in more of an “offline” approach, in that getting to know one another and establishing a relationship should be paramount. Once you know and understand what each other’s strengths, weaknesses, services and needs are, then the mutual benefit of the connection will naturally surface.
When Shawn goes into a networking, or into any kind of connection, relationship he understands that there’s a give-and-take in the relationship. This practically works itself out by having a certain set of strengths and services connected with the person he has networked with so that when Shawn meets someone else who needs that service, he instantly will connect the two people and see their business grow, while fulfilling the need of the other person. Then, as the relationships grow and become more and more reciprocal, everybody within the network wins!
You see, as Shawn puts it, your business growth and your business potential is only as strong as your ability and the strength of your network. Now, he is the first to admit that this truth didn’t sit easy with him at first. Shawn didn’t like that the idea that success really is about who you know not what you do.
Yet, as Shawn connected with and became friends with people such as Chris Dreyer from Attorney Rankings, he realized that now, either one of them would be willing to drop everything to help one another succeed – all because each of them have given to one another without expectation. So, in building his networking circles, Shawn has come to understand both who he has connected with, as well as where their mutual benefits reside.
Now, it’s a hard truth that some people are going to be more takers than givers. But if you find a core group of people that are willing to give, and you’re willing to give, and there’s that mutual respect and connection across the board… then, those people become your inner networking circle.
One of the most valuable lessons Shawn has ever learned came to him the hard way:
Since learning this incredibly valuable lesson, Shawn is much more organized and almost always has a plan in place before meeting somebody. He puts them in an email database. He follows up with them on a regular basis so that he is connecting with them in a meaningful way. Ultimately, the purpose of networking is not just to accumulate a list of names that you know, but to help build each other’s business efforts to new levels.
But to achieve this, Shawn needed to come up with and organize an effective system.
At one point, Shawn was going to a lot of business networking events. He was mostly going to open networking events where he would basically meet with anybody and connect with anybody. But, then he learned about closed networking events. At these events, instead of focusing on meeting 100 different people at each event, taking part in short conversations amounting to very little meaningful give and take, he decided to go into a closed networking group.
There, Shawn worked on building relationships with a select few individuals particularly interested in building each other’s businesses in a mutually beneficial way.
Typically a closed network would be a group of about twelve like-minded businesspeople that Shawn will see fairly regularly – on a monthly basis, he meets with two or three of those individuals face-to-face, one-on-one for about 30-45 minutes. He gets to know their businesses they get to know Shawn’s. And then, through that one-to-one connection, each of the people are able to refer business at a higher rate and a much more successful rate for one another because they actually know each other.
Among his other efforts, Shawn has begun Sidepreneurs (sidepreneurs.com). This innovative pool of resources, podcast, and connection site is all about helping individuals launch their side-businesses and graduate into full-time entrepreneurship! Shawn offers mentorship which comes out of his own experience, as well as his network. The result has been the building of a community of like-minded individuals who are focused on building their side businesses and helping one another achieve those goals.
There is a lot of misunderstanding about the term “discipleship”. The word “disciple” is used 297 times throughout the New Testament. The word “Christian” is used three times. According to these numbers, we should be receiving about 1,000 times more teaching about being a disciple of Christ compared to being “Christian”.
How does this fit into the type of teachings that you are receiving at your church?
Jesus, of course, is the first one to use the word “disciple” in the New Testament when He called his disciples. He calls them, invites them, prompts them, challenges them, and tells them to follow Him.
To Peter, He says, “Follow Me and I will make you a fisher of men.” To Matthew, He simply says, “Follow Me.”
And, to YOU, He is also saying, “Follow Me.”
You have a choice. Will you follow Him, or follow your own way? It is a clear crossroads in your life at this moment, and each day.
“Discipleship” actually has its roots in the Old Testament when men and women were called by God to follow Him and obey Him. All the followers of God in the Old Testament were disciples of God, as were followers in the New Testament, and all the followers throughout Church history and into today. These are disciples of the Lord.
You, if you are a disciple of Jesus, are in great company. This great group of followers is often referred to as the Great Cloud of Witnesses – all the disciples that came before you are included in that group.
The term “disciple” means a dedicated follower, a committed learner, an applied apprentice. A disciple of Christ diligently follows, learns, and gains knowledge and skills that God indicates are important. Being a disciple of Christ implies interest, action, intention, commitment and moving forward. Being a disciple of Christ implies interesting work, engaging fun, stimulating your mind and your emotions, and being excited about the future as you grow in skills and wisdom. Being a disciple includes surrendering every part of yourself: body, mind, emotions, and spirit, to Christ.
Here’s an illustration: Picture yourself in the presence of someone very important, say a famous leader, speaker, musician or personality that you deeply admire. They come to visit you and want to show them something that is very important. They invite you to go with them and ask any questions you want. As they walk beside you, you would intently be right beside them, asking, listening, and talking with them.
What does this feel and look like?
Here’s a personal story to illustrate the point: I remember when I met and had the opportunity to spend a little time with a famous man. I read about who he was and he was such a visionary in my field, and had such great insights as a Christian. At first, I was like a little kid – I was intimidated, even scared by him. I was in awe that he was even there in front of me and was spending time with me. I had so many questions I wanted to ask him and I hung on every single word. I sat next to him, listening intently, asking a lot of questions. I took notes and tried to remember each word that he said so that I could remember them later. I was a follower, a learner, an apprentice.
Now, being a disciple of Jesus is a step beyond this previous illustration. It is vastly different than following any human man or woman.
We follow Christ because we want to be like Him, and we want to surrender to Him. To do this, we put Him in the driver’s seat of our life every moment of every day. He is now in control of who we are, to make us loving, merciful, gracious, powerful, strong, bold, wise, fun, balanced, and in the center of God’s plan. Those are all characteristics of Jesus and He wants them for us also.
Being a disciple also means you are unique. If you notice, each of the disciples in the Bible were very different. They each had different personalities, quirks, interests, strengths, and abilities – just like you have unique personality traits, gifts, strengths and weaknesses that make you who you are. And Jesus wants to mature and balance each of those uniquenesses to be wonderful.
Jesus brings these two facets together: He makes us like Himself, and shapes and uses our uniqueness. This is another way that the Christian faith is different from any other religion in the world.
So, why is dedication and commitment to being a disciple so important? Because being a disciple is a process – an ongoing process, not a finished product. Once a disciple – always a disciple: meaning, you will always be seeking, asking, knocking. As a result, you will be finding, learning, growing and maturing. You need full dedication and commitment to continue being a disciple of Jesus.
The key tools to being a disciple are very simple, and they are shown all throughout Scripture. A.S.K.: Ask, Seek, and Knock. Ask the Lord; Seek Him; Knock on the doors in front of you to gain entrance. Jesus will be your loving Guide.
The goal of being a disciple is to become what He intends you to be – in His image, walking with Him, building His kingdom. He wants you to be mature, fulfilled, balanced, strong, and bearing wonderful fruits of the Spirit. Which include: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
That’s a lot to aim for. That’s a great goal. But again, this takes time.
Just as it takes time to grow physically, from a child to an adult, it takes time to grow spiritually, from a new Christian to a mature Christian.
It is good to know what you are getting into. Is the risk / reward worth it? I would advocate: Yes it is.
What are the costs of a disciple? It costs everything.
You must surrender everything to Him. EVERYTHING. Nothing held back, open hands, no closed fists holding onto something. He wants it all.
Jesus said, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves, take up their cross and follow Me.” (Mark 8:34) And He said, “Whoever does not pick up their cross and follow Me, cannot be My disciple.” (Luke 14:27)
So, what are the benefits or rewards of being a disciple of Christ? The long-term rewards, beyond this life, are living eternally in a new heaven, a new earth, with a new body, seeing God and knowing Him directly. The immediate rewards, in our current lives, are endless and amazing: a passionate, productive, and purposeful life. Jesus said, “I came that they might have life, and have it abundantly.” (John 10:10)
Abundance implies growth. There are many word pictures in the bible of disciples growing: moving from being blind to seeing; moving from milk to meat; moving from childhood to adulthood; moving from crawling to walking to running; moving from student to teacher. So, the question is: Are you moving in that type of positive direction?
We each need a discipler – someone who walks alongside us to help us grow. A discipler is there “to prepare God’s people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach the unity of the faith and the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.” (Ephesians 4:12-13)
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Call me a contrarian, but I LOVE Halloween.
And I, for one, am not prepared to concede this holy-day to the enemy. Here’s why:
Halloween is a contraction of two words, Hallows’ Eve.
“Hallows” (related to the word “holy”) is a reference to “saints” (having nothing to do with the Church conferring sainthood on dead people, but having everything to do with every one of us who loves, worships, and serves Jesus Christ). (See Ephesians 1:15 for but one example of the biblical usage of the word “saint.”)
“Eve,” of course, refers to evening, much as we use the word in reference to Christmas Eve.
Put it all together, and Halloween is in reality a “Holy Evening,” the night before “All Saints Day.”
Simply put, Halloween is the one night out of each year set aside for the dual purposes of (1) Identifying those precious saints of God, those committed Christ-followers who have had a significant, positive, and holy influence in our lives; and (2) Planning how we are going to honor them on the following day, November 1, All Saints Day.
This in the spirit of Romans 13:7, “Render to all men their dues… respect to whom respect is due, and honor to whom honor is due” (Amplified Bible).
Think of it this way: We have days set aside to honor our Mothers, Fathers, Presidents, historical individuals like Columbus, Martin Luther King Jr., and others, our veterans, those who have paid the ultimate sacrifice (Memorial Day), etc., etc.
All Saints Day is the one day out of each year to honor those who have encouraged us in our walks with Christ, including those who have…
Led us to faith in Christ,
Taught us His Word,
Set an example for us of godly living,
Prayed for us,
Helped us along the way to take one more step in our spiritual journey,
Or perhaps the most important of all… Were there for us when no one else was.
Halloween is the night to identify these precious people, the unsung heroes of our personal faith, and to plan how best to honor them the very next day.
We can honor them in so many simple and yet oh-so-important ways:
A card, a letter, a note, a phone call, a text message, a Facebook post, an email message, a gift. Some sincere expression of what these dear people mean to us, and how these individuals have blessed our lives.
What a beautiful concept. More than that…
What a BEAUTIFUL DAY. All Saints Day. Preceded, as it is, with an equally beautiful evening. An evening devoted to identification and preparation. An evening called Hallows’ Eve!
So in the true spirit of this sacred holy-day, let me extend to each of you a heartfelt…
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